Marathon Man

In this raw, explicit podcast, we interview our coworker Beto about his life-changing experience training for and completing the Chicago Marathon. Beto takes us through his journey from the moment a casual invitation planted the seed to him suddenly signing up on a whim to run his first-ever marathon. We get an inside look at the mental and physical rollercoaster of marathon training and race day as someone doing it completely on his own. Beto shares invaluable lessons on overcoming self-doubt, the struggle of commitment, why we sometimes need to lean on others when we feel most alone and how to stay focused in the present moment during an enormously grueling task. His story serves as inspiration that no matter how impossible a goal seems, taking things one step at a time can lead to crossing unimaginable finish lines.

Episode Highlights:

[1:18] Beto explains his spontaneous decision to sign up for the Chicago Marathon despite no prior running experience.

[3:30] Beto realizes the months of grueling training required and starts having doubts.

[4:10] Beto begins a 6-month training plan, fitting in solo runs before and after work.

[11:09] Beto opts to train alone instead of joining the marathon group at church.

[12:58] Beto struggles through hot summer 10+ mile training runs, reaching mental and physical breaking points.

[17:28] Beto considers quitting but persists to avoid letting down donors and finish what he started.

[21:08] Beto explains the mistake of doing a 20-mile training run downtown in the blistering heat.

[24:06] Beto’s training partner and support system unexpectedly pulls out of running the marathon.

[25:47] Beto starts the Chicago Marathon surrounded by others but realizes he'll ultimately be alone.

[31:46] On race eve, Beto’s partner confirms he is officially not running, leaving Beto emotionally devastated.

[34:09] Up to 40,000 fans lining Chicago streets contrast Beto's isolated mental state on race day.

[35:01] Beto gets a wave of pre-race adrenaline and bursts off the starting line.

[43:51] Beto remains lost in his thoughts, blocking out fatigue and hitting the wall around mile 13.

[47:42] Beto disassociates around mile 19/20, forcing his mind to focus on positivity.

[50:06] Beto passes struggling runners late in the race but stays motivated to cross the finish line.

[56:25] Beto's constant mental rollercoaster mimicking life's ongoing ups and downs.

[59:29] Beto reflects on the enormity of finishing something he previously thought impossible.

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Transcript

Nick: 0:07

It's time to get fucking off that. Hello, hello. Well, just to let you guys know we were driving down the street and we saw this guy walking, and we pulled over and rolled down the window and said, Hey, you want to be on our fucking podcasts? So we got this guy with this now What was your name again but Beto see I don't, man, I know like three battles. You want me to know seriously this dude was running down the thing and I said, Hey, what the fuck is your story? You got a story. He's like, Yeah, I run marathons and I'm like, Alright, come on the show. He runs. And he's here. Yeah. Well, actually, though, record in the most weird places. Right now we're in a closet. So we hope it sounds pretty, pretty decent. But we're in a closet. Yeah. Anyway, no, we did not find you on the street with Beto actually works with us. I had to ask him if he would come on to the podcast because he accomplished something that literally seriously blew me away. Like I was like, alright, let's just go into it. You go ahead. What did you actually do?

Beto: 1:18

I finished the Chicago Marathon Bank of America marathon this year. Okay. So when you say that, what

Nick: 1:23

does that mean to me? Because. No what that means. I'll tell you a little bit what it means fucking guy this year decides to train for a marathon. Not any marathon. We're talking the 26 mile or 26.2. This is one of the biggest one of the bids, almost like the biggest fucking marathon

Beto: 1:43

this year, and the beginning of the year. I've never done one before.

Nancy: 1:49

minute, wait a minute, you decided this year at the beginning of the year to say Oh, I'm gonna run a 26.2. Please.

Beto: 1:57

Confused in the beginning and it's funny because a lot of people don't know me. My fiance. We have friends. A couple do Nora for years. We hang out all the time. They go to a church with the kids and all that. Yeah, they do

Nick: 2:12

it Have you ever listened to this podcast? Okay, so you didn't that a holy holy? You don't want to get the fuck out of here.

Beto: 2:22

There's a lot of stuff that they do camping as elves never buddy. But yeah, let's buy the house. And I've seen it before. I just didn't know what it was. But I've been on for a while we traveled together and all that and they're not like, Hey, you should join or come by. But one day, they will age check it out. That was it. I was like, type of dudes. Like, I don't have to go to church, right? Like, do my own thing. In my mind. I speak every day. And that's what I do. Because when I started seeing that events and all that we didn't, it's not like we got convinced we were like, You know what, let's just go check it out. So we went in a couple of times in those schools, it was like, different data didn't care for the kids. Like literally, it was like school, like it was cool. You know, so I said, it's only an hour, whatever. We ended up going on Sundays. And then my body was a hey, he actually done the marathon two years ago, which is 21. And I was like, damn, dually. That's pretty good. Because not in a bad way. But he's a little bit older than me and like, but he is he goes to the gym and all that. But him and his wife. They both did it. And I was like, you can say, you know, in my head. I was like, damn, they did it. I could do it. That's what I thought.

Nick: 3:30

Because he's an old five. You can say that because we didn't say his name so you can

Beto: 3:36

serve it older. No, he did. I've seen him his wife. And I was like, Man, that's good. They told me about it. And they said, No, it was tough. You got to prepare for that. I like to go to the gym. I think I'm eager. I think I take care of myself decent. You know, when I was like 10 That's good. Never thought about us in our marathons I would run just to train. But I'm talking about running around the park. So generally nothing never thought about okay, never wanted to do so let's get this straight. We've worked together obviously for the past five years. But so I I know you too, you know, sort of want to eat a little better blah, blah, blah.

Nick: 4:10

But you by no means are like an avid runner. Yes, you work out but I'm saying this is where it blew me away. Because I know you and I know that. You know what I'm saying? It didn't fit the profile. So did

Unknown: 4:27

you see my face? Oh,

Nick: 4:28

yeah. Like why?

Beto: 4:32

Supposed to do a workout like I said, we're gonna run the trail and that was a hit or miss. I never, you know, whatever. Last year, you got injured, and he didn't do it. He actually got injured a week or two prior of the marathon so you train for like six months. There's a training plan that you can get followed by the groups and all that district around the world. They come here to run Yeah, that's a big motherfucker. It's a big event. I'd not known so I'll tell you like it was huge. Last year. I feel bad because he was training for it and then he got injured. I seen that because that's what they remember I can enter many times, all my legs, my foot broken twice my ankle snapped at one. So that's probably another reason why I really don't want to because I'm always tickling. I don't want to get hurt when I see that my buddy last year, so I was like, think about your training and then a week prior to get injured, sucks, I'm sure the bigger the years when we started going, you know, he's he chickened out, okay, nothing about the American marathon. Forget it was over. I'm not even in my mind. Well, around that time, the couple of times that we will go on Sundays, they brought up the topic about the marathon because there's a group that goes together with the church, a lot of guys get together. You don't have to be part of the church, but you can bring people in for the marathon group guys really have to be you know, saying like, Yeah, are you only church members? Oh, no, it's they just had the group that they do so much that they're known. So for you to get into a marathon, it's easier through them because you got to get registered, you gotta get. It's not like you can just sign up. It's like a lottery. So that's what I kind of know. Yeah. Because of the group. Since they do it, World Vision is to group they're all over. They're known in marathons are known in a lot of charity events. So

Unknown: 6:10

that was a group that you got, yeah, he was into Yeah,

Beto: 6:13

because there's so many churches and other groups that get together. We're visually it's that's the biggest group, but they're everywhere. I heard about it. And it was still nothing. He didn't even ask me yet or nothing. I was like, I'm not doing it. Just know what Alright, so then, I think we got a week or two and then he asked him, we were I think cooking out something he's ain't doing the marathon this year. I was a hell no. I was like, not that Oh, good. He's like, should do it. It's like training. Check it all. Try it all. You do good since you'd like to run or whatever. I was, uh, yeah. But I'm a marathon. Well, how long is it because I really do look into it. And he said, he was like, twisted for two. Like, I was like, I'm gonna die. Rachel marathon is like, she signed up to the Olympics in a week. Like, do you remember one Sunday that went normal day, whatever. But I think we're, I don't know if there's something going on personally. There are some people that day, I was more like, in my head and just listening to the surface or whatever. And Morzine. Yeah, I was just like, chillin. But I was in my house thinking a lot of stuff going on, nothing like that. But there's times that you just like, you pay attention closer to where people are talking. And they brought up the thing about the marathon. And the lady that does, she's in charge of the group for a couple of the pastures there, they do marathons. Like they're like, they do the Ironman stuff. When I seen on Sunday church, these guys are like, these guys are like doing like they travel all over to and I was like, Damn, that's pretty cool. So that specific Sunday that we were talking about she they look kind of went with a lake, you got to push yourself, sometimes there's things that you want to set goals, or sometimes you doubt yourself and all that. In my head, I didn't feel like there's something that I want to do just that I've never done before. And that Sunday, I was the one who brought out the end of the service. They were like, Look, if you feel something, you're scared, you're nervous. And this was like, April, March, April. And they're like, You go on lessons. Have you gotten something different to throw you off in a good way in whatever bringing it up. I just was getting I swear, I promise you. I was just like, I felt like they were talking to me. I'm like, like saying like, like, she was talking like, my body just asked me and I seen the last time and I was like, damn, like, they want you to sign up. Like in a service that you want to say no, we're having questions or just questions about the marathon and how the training plan goes. Just stay off your service and come talk to us, right? It was like 10 minutes left the service and then everybody saw him out and guys and girls are walking up to the front. Now you come up older, young, all of us mixed. And then I'm like, No, I'm not gonna do it. And I was gonna walk out and I saw a girl she was walking on my normal Hold on. She's like, gonna do it. I'm like, I'm just gonna go so let me see. I'm just gonna go see what that what it is. So I walked to the front. There was like 15 people 20

Nick: 9:05

minutes a minute you get to the front.

Beto: 9:07

Yeah, you walk there. Once I got there, she gives the paper and then they're like, it's an October and this is a dream plan.

Unknown: 9:14

You It was March, March, April. And this thing was

Beto: 9:20

the training takes a while. Takes a while he's it

Nick: 9:22

takes a while. That's only like,

Unknown: 9:25

I'm thinking to myself, That's not a wild sweetie. That's like a couple of months. Well,

Beto: 9:30

the training plant when I when I opened the thing about it tells you and honestly, this is week one week two, like you run a mile so how many months? Like 20 Some weeks, but they already have started a couple of weeks prior so in my head I will be honest with you my head I was like not only

Nick: 9:49

did they started a couple weeks prior everybody's fucking ran like seven marathons. Yeah.

Beto: 9:57

Yeah, there was people there mountain in church, what I was mostly honest, because I'm like, You know what, I'm gonna push myself. I want to do something like for me. And like, of course, of course at that moment, I'm like marathon I'm gonna get and I honestly, I was like, four or five months. I'm like, Yeah, I could do this. So I signed up, it was that cockiness that comes I signed up, I was confident I was signed up, and I was okay, cool training plan. Now, when it started hitting that with the calendar, that's when it really hit me because you still got a lot of work to get your life going through and you

Nick: 10:30

start getting that way. That's all they do for their life. So they can fuck yeah. So

Unknown: 10:35

what was the training? So you're supposed

Beto: 10:37

to do three or four runs a week. Now it starts off like, you run a minute you walk two minutes. That's what I was thinking, yeah. It gradually gradually goes up. And then on Saturday, on the morning, you're supposed to do a group run, what are your group members, and that could be one mile, there's a parking thing meet up and the next week could be two miles. And then on Sunday, you're supposed to still work out on your own. I didn't want to group to group price because of work. And then after work, I would determine you're supposed to do it on your own.

Nick: 11:10

So those these people are like, this kid ain't gonna do shit that he never told your friends No.

Beto: 11:16

And if they suggest you to go, but from the beginning, and like Nick was talking, like you didn't know those doing it, I would have known more because of the donation part of it. But they never really seen my training. I was doing it on my own. He's asked you donations

Unknown: 11:32

and people are like, so he can't even

Beto: 11:37

people were like, are you really going to do it? So I'm like, Yeah, that was it. That was it. So I have to work like to get my son and stuff at home and then go to the port, do manual training and all that. But it got to a point that I want to hit on, I will miss them. There's things that your appointment you have to do. So I was catching. Yes, it was catching up. And I will see people actually hitting the exact plan. But it was also times when I'm like, I'll make up for it. I'll run a mile or like, but then started getting harder and harder. Summer started coming. And then I look at the weather three miles. And then I'm like, Alright, that was getting longer and longer. And it's just training. And I remember that week that it was like three, five, nothing was like seven miles a week. But it Saturday. What I did that three miles, because I never done more than three months. I've done like one and a half just on my own. And there's certain times that you want to hit you got to build them during last gotta Yes, you have to keep pushing

Nick: 12:32

him to the end of the marathon shuts down. It's like 10 o'clock at night. He's

Beto: 12:38

like, pick me up when I started into the summer, and we're gonna start getting to an awesome amount of miles. And like I said, I'm doing this on my own. Never done America. So I'm literally looking at like, What should I wear, like backpacks or what kind of shoes there's, I had to get different shoes, because there's a lot of stuff that you have to prepare. And a lot of it also is mental. That's

Nick: 12:58

where I was gonna go. Because I want to stop for a second. So from the beginning of the of you even just signing up for this, where's your mind because this is all about mental really saying what kind of shoes you wear. And that's all accessories to the fact but your mind is I'm going to do this marathon, you're cocky in your mind. You're young, you feel that you can do this. This is not a big deal. Where's your mind at that point? Because just to make that decision is a big thing. The whole idea for me, and for us even to really have you on here and really talk about this is that, first of all, there's a few things right? Commitment is huge. You made a commitment to do something, but not only did you make the commitment, but now you got to actually pull through with that. Right. So that's huge. And then just the fact that you had never done this before. is amazing. It's such a big thing. Did you realize how big it was when you made that choice? And I want to accomplish something big.

Beto: 13:57

But did you realize how they didn't until I'm be honest with you? I think the so they had a dinner the big four. So get you like your gear and get your stuff that

Nick: 14:09

night for a marathon? Yeah, I know. It was like last rites, last rites there. Actually go to the electric

Beto: 14:16

chair, you get all together. Yeah. So you get all together, you go to the calmer place and every group is there and like, they shut down streets and all that when I was looking for parking and doing all that. I told Nick to it and I will say do it. That's what I was saying. There were so many people they want to show the video of like the trail. So it was like that's what I was. That's when I got scared.

Nick: 14:38

So through all the training through all this after you made the decision through all of this, your mind is just focused. Yes, I'm doing one thing,

Unknown: 14:45

right you didn't like think of like

Beto: 14:48

this. One point I did. I bought like Nick said, when I when there was the training part when there were certain miles like for example when I did the 10 and I couldn't finish a struggle. That's when I was like, I already committed to this. I have late and then I'm like, I have to do it. Why do you have to? Because I feel like if I started something already, okay,

Unknown: 15:08

that was your that was my like you had to? You could just back down. Oh

Beto: 15:13

yeah, but I didn't want to quit. Gotcha that made me push myself even harder. So Is

Nick: 15:17

that Is that who you are outside of this? Or is this something you had to prove to yourself that you want to become another words? You said you made a commitment and you didn't want to quit? Even? Have you always been that way? Or is this something that this is another level? You know what I mean?

Beto: 15:37

It's another level, but I think I've always been that way. It just at this time, it was, I guess I got tested even more, because I feel like I've always been the type of dude that like, if I start something like even if it's a house price or something like now struggle or like say I'm working on my truck, like, and I can't figure it out until I get it done. I don't like Oh, get pissed off, or whatever. But I'm gonna get it done.

Nick: 15:58

You have some initial drive to begin with.

Beto: 16:02

But not like you said this was physical. But no, it was this test in my mental furrow. Do

Nick: 16:07

you feel that you always had that drive? Or is there something in your life that really growing up or whatever that really made you say, Man, I'm sort of on my own here. I need to fucking do this shit. I was like, or have you always just innately sort of just had that drive? You think?

Beto: 16:24

I probably had? I probably had that drive. But I don't think I've really like dug it out myself. In like this January. Yeah, like that. I said there was other personal things that were going on. And just like other people that I knew, and my mind was just like, all over everywhere, and I don't really, I don't know if that's what it called it, but it was just to me, I literally, I was like, You know what, I'm gonna try it. And I'm gonna challenge myself. Let me see what I'm capable of cool.

Unknown: 16:53

So this this call you? Yeah, nobody was Yeah, I saw that. My buddy. Like, just mentioned it to me. But that day that I signed up, he wasn't even there. I could have just walked out. And now we're gonna like Ash

Nick: 17:03

street. So there's so many things going on here, like for me, because I could just sit here and play so so there's choices. There's commitment, there's dry, there's all kinds of shit. You're sort of now at the point, you're already committed. You made the choice. You have the drive. But now you're sort of hitting a wall. So this is now where you have to overcome even more in your mind. Well, this is a bit

Beto: 17:28

because if you know how, like, I'm overthinking like crazy. I'm the type of dude for shit hits the fan. Like, I'm trying to analyze everything. docente nice. No, this book to me. I'm like, I rather prepare and succeed. Yes, of course. Like, like just writing cruise along. I tried to do that. But I'm also a thing of like, No, you know, if I do this for myself, like my masters, wrote, what the beginning when you're talking about mentor? Oh, yes. If I wrote for 3040 minutes I got last year in my mind. Anyway. So this is just gonna go you know what I mean? But I did get tested like in the middle. And I'm gonna like there was twice that I literally walked out of the trailer park because I was like, I can't do this you like, I'm like symptom and my other things. Like I started getting pains heated by my ribs. So I was never done this. So I'm asking certain people, what should I do? Should I take and I'm like, so pushing away. There's no way I'm going to do that. Bring

Nick: 18:26

me back to that point, though. Bring us back to that point where you're walking off the trail, like bringing us back there. So it's sunny, dry, wet. So it was your day like,

Beto: 18:37

so I went after work? Because I said pissed. You know, I would love to work because it wouldn't make sense. Because once I'm like, I go home or so drive to the city. And there's a trail that I go there that I found. That is exactly like if you do the whole trail back, unfortunately, five miles. So it helped me think of the exact times and whatever. But I was on my own just people running and doing their thing and in the summer, because it's someone who's supposed to not run when it's hot. But then again, I didn't know a lot of these things. To me. I'm just like, oh, sorry. 75 degrees 80. But yeah, you're running your body's heating up, you're dehydrated and said like that's the stuff that I was learning for that day. I remember exactly that first of all, my watch was already it wasn't working. And I need to look at the times that they had to hit I think was the 10 mile that's when the I remember because it was like 75 degrees. It was decent weather and I think it was gonna rain storm a normal trail. And I started doing my miles and wherever my Washington fuck, whatever. Like at least I know that once I hit back it's already five dodges, gotta do twice, right. That's what's going on man. And I started getting pain again. I was wasn't agile was like, I'm trying to follow all these tips that they're telling me but everybody is different. So I remember I was about halfway and I was like, holy shit. Like, I still have to do another lap. So now in my head, I'm like, You got another five miles and I'm like, How long has it been? I can't even see my watch. of going back to those side hustle marks on the ground. It was like seven Seven and a half. I was dying. I was dying. I couldn't, I started walking. It's so funny. I was walking, because I was sweating so much. And even though it was drinking water, but like, my legs were hurting and all that, and I stopped. But the thing is like, when your body you're in that momentum, like when you slow down, and then he tried to go back up, it's worse. So I remember I tried to walk and I tried to run and I was like two miles, four miles, and I'm like I can't. And then I'm like, I stopped it again. And I started running. And I knew it was a fish. I said, I'm never gonna do 26.2 There's no way I literally was like, I'm not doing this. I took my bag out. And I'm walking back to the truck because I parked and other sites are not have to walk back. And I grabbed my phone because I'm looking I'm like, I did like April one. And I'm like, Dude, if I'm dying right now, like it's struggling, what I'm what did I do wrong? And I'm thinking in my head, this whole thing? I'm like, There's no way and then goes, you already signed up? And then I was gonna make sure what if I just quit? And then I'm gonna, how can I cook? Well, people knowing, you know what I need, like, people are gonna know they're gonna be what did you finish? The day is gonna, you know what I mean? So I was like, I can't do this. I was like, I cannot do this. There's no way I'm gonna finish this. Let me

Nick: 21:08

ask you a question. Real quick, though. You're doing this on your own, you get to the point where you're hitting walls training on my own. My buddy ended up signing up. So here's my question. Because this is a really big thing. There's people out there who feel that they can do everything on their own. And you're given a basic roadmap, you're given a basic plan. And that basic plan is based off of years of experience from people, right. But the reality is, we are all different. Yeah, that basic plan is just a roadmap, you can go on your own, and you could experience so many different things that are based off of your body tied your mind your whatever, right. So that's number one. Point. Number two is, there's this group that's created because they know that as a group, you're better together, right? But you decided you want to just go on your own, and you wanted to do this on your own, you really don't not that you don't need any help.

Unknown: 22:01

He decided because he had a choice. At some point. There was,

Nick: 22:05

but I'm saying that they had all these things where you can get together. And I can almost guarantee you that if he were to call on anybody at any point, those people would have been there to back him up because

Beto: 22:16

my buddy was he proceeded to trust me to group. And the

Nick: 22:20

reason why I'm saying this, because because here now I have a little bit that we can relate to 100% with each other, by yourself. This is where this is where I find the story most fascinating and where it sort of touched me the most, because we're a lot of like, and I know that just from working with him for the past five years. That's exactly who I feel I am. And I'm not making this about me. I'm just saying that this is why I found this story fascinating is that I feel I could do everything. Like there's basic roadmaps, and I think that I'm so mentally fit and intelligent enough to figure shit out on my own, that I don't need the help of anybody else. When you get to a point like this, where you're hitting a wall, and you're struggling, and you're like fuck, and now in even more, so you didn't say, Fuck me. Maybe I just need to, you know, call on the group and whatever you're saying in your mind? What did I do wrong? Like? Yeah, you you feel that you have the drive in your mind. But in reality we do. Sometimes we do need the help of other people. Right? Sometimes, we do need to stop being so fucking cocky. Right? And you did it. You fucking finished something a feat that I? Well, I'd say I could never, which is limiting myself. That's what I've never, it's to the point that you don't have to do shit on your own. There are tons of fucking resources and people out there that are willing to help you do whatever. And you had that. And in our mind, whatever it is, whether we're too cocky, whether we feel embarrassed because we have to ask for help, because so yeah, like what? Well,

Beto: 24:06

the only person that would make when I was struggling it was like my girl touches you right? No, you could do it or you know, take a break the kids and they're like, you know, you got to my sisters and I'll set some 100 Go there we're gonna have to go I will never like when I'm talking to my buddy here and there. But I did them several ways that you should do a group of the group Yeah, I had a chance to do it. Maybe it was just more like, you know what? It's it's I started by myself you want to you and I wanted to prove it to myself. Not that I was being like, No, fuck no. Like, I did not realize especially your point about the group. Mind you that 94 Definitely hidden more. That's when I was nervous. And I remember I was telling you, my buddy that I was gonna run with the one that I signed up with. He did it. He was my only I have not seen him. He was your he was so put like this. We've never tried together. We signed up differently, and I didn't seem to the delivers.

Nick: 25:04

Well, but that but no, we'll get to it, we'll get to it. He gets better than that he never trained to Dempsey until the day the race, and that was supposed to be his boy to do that's gonna run what but we'll get to that. So you hit the wall. Yeah, you hit the wall. You're like, Fuck, I ain't gonna do this. So how many times the training was fucking rigorous to train. Good. And then you're like, I'm fucking done with this shit. You're hot. You're fucking sweating. It's a hot day. It's a cool day. Your fucking mind is on top of the world. One day, the next day, your fucking summons, stomping all over your face, like so it's, it's fucked up. It's like, it's not going perfect. It doesn't always go perfect. Right?

Beto: 25:47

And then next, you know, aside from all that, then it's like, August, September, October come in, and then it's like shit. Firstly, as a beginner, I'm like, Oh, I got weeks. How

Nick: 25:57

many hours would you say you

Beto: 25:58

trained? At the beginning, it will take like 30 minutes an hour. But when my time me, it will take me about almost two hours, three hours.

Nick: 26:07

You did two to three hours a day?

Beto: 26:10

Because it depends on your patient. You gotta feel comfortable. But but when you're doing a certain amount of mileage is like five miles it takes I mean, I'm just gonna say average for 30 minutes. Wow.

Nick: 26:20

No wonder he was so fucking slow at work. Yeah. No, it's It's, you're saying so two to three hours a day. So you'd say what? At least 40 hours a month? 50 hours a month? Yeah, you can say that. Yeah. Well, that's it. Like, just in the terms of commitment. That's, that's a big

Beto: 26:42

commitment. You still gotta include aside from the time of your stretching, you gotta year all that gloves on about two or three hours? Because you can't just art to start running. You have to, like physically do things prior enough to? Because, like the conditioning in them? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Because I got a lot of tips from people that the Americans are like, look, the recovery is like your main, if you don't recover property, things, just wasting your time. So that's why it will take longer on my resume. It could be a couple miles. But at the end of days, they took three hours even like shit, they still got your errands and stuff to do. So my day was long. So

Nick: 27:19

we go through the phase of deciding to do it the commitment, the drug, the struggle, you're fucking hitting walls, you're practically dying, as you're doing. When you're doing this, you got life going on, you got everything else going on, you got worse. You got your son, you got a young son, he demands a ton of fucking attention. You're really sort of in your mind trying to figure this out. So you get up to three miles, five miles, 10 miles, whatever you get up to did you wind up running 26 miles before you did the marathon, so you had no clue.

Beto: 27:57

And the way their training plan is, because you go up and then weeks prior, because your endurance, they actually go back down, and then they hit your real long training. The longest one was a 20 mine. That was two weeks prior and after that you just go down until the day of the race. So nobody gets to 20 Nobody goes past 20 and the 20 mile marker until I was truth, because I told him I'd never finished it. I did 18

Nick: 28:27

Also your you failed

Beto: 28:29

on the trigger pad. I never hit my 20 and that date, I made another mistake also, because I went downtown to the pier. And there was so much shit that was also come up was like dude, you got to do it in the morning. But then I was telling myself if I pushed waiting with weather like that in my head, I'm like, then this person easier me running in October at your own little I did not know that. This is all new. Like say, well, nobody ever until the day of America. Nobody hits past 20 miles. So I Yes, I was like, Tim only did a team. I'm gonna you know what the next day I'm gonna make me think I'm just making up and don't be 20 miles straight. It's tough. But yeah, nobody hit 26 If we never did a marathon, like a lot of people in that group, you don't know up to that date if you're going to make the trip six months so unless you train prior and set up the training that I'm just gonna do, but the way that the train pipe No, you actually go down before you start getting closer to the race, but the 20 mile is still the longest for a train. And after that you just now two weeks prior you go down also because you don't want to get hurt and you just got to be prepared for the day off. There's

Nick: 29:35

so many lessons and things here but we're not going to get into all that we want to get into the point of it is now the day before the marathon because you've done this training I've hit you sorta high you've been low you've been all over the motherfucking place it's the day before the race and this is where I think that I thought that it was even brought the story together even more. This dude you sign up with he's supposed to be with you up to the day before the training. There's this dinner. You do all that shit. He didn't even go. So now you don't even have your buddy which nobody there. Because he didn't do the training. He didn't run with people remember he should have been running what people were talking not know like, oh yeah, I know what I'm talking support. Yeah, this goes back to the mindfuck. Right. It's the day before the race, you really don't know anybody, personally that you're going to run with your boy doesn't even show up. He's not even going because he's still hurt, right? Well,

Beto: 30:28

he was starting to feel pain, like because of his previous injury, but he was still training with it. He had like his knee started bothering him. And all that he was telling me to get MRI was a Dutch citizen fracture. Small one, but it's up to you. I'm like you shouldn't do it. Yes, you

Nick: 30:42

want to do it? If you would have reached out to him in any of this training. Do you think he would have trained with you? Well, yeah,

Beto: 30:49

yeah, of course. He lives like seven minutes away. Oh, it's

Nick: 30:52

another point. I want to make that. We just assumed that we could do everything on our own blah, blah, blah, go back to that point. But the reality is that there are people we can reach out to, and we just choose not to do that. And do you think that it would have made it in your mind, right? Because it's still your mind, right? You're still lost in your mind. At the end of the day, you could train with anybody and all kinds of people. But at the end of the day, when the fucking lights go out, you're still lost in your own mind. So it's one thing to be running and saying, oh, fuck, but if your mind isn't focused on that, your feet ain't gonna fucking go anywhere. Anyway, you're lost in your mind. And I think that's part of the thing where this leads up to this dude, the day of the race and this is why I found the story most fascinating. And this one like I'll do we got to get you on here. So the night before the race at the dinner, after dinner, so So

Beto: 31:46

the night before the dinner, whatever, they show the videos and last my tennis, you know, it was a good crowd and all that it kind of gotten hyped up and I feel a little bit better. But when I started seeing like the trail, I was like, Holy shit, this is long, but I was like, You know what, don't think about it. If there's people here, they've done 1314 marathons. And I'm like, clearly, that's where it goes with the group. There were random people to read the word, buddy, you could do it. I promise you, you're gonna finish it on it. And my buddy texted me. He says, Hey, I'm not running marathons. I will say, what? My heart was pounding. I'm like, I thought it was gonna start with you. You've done it just for it. I know, you're gonna run with 1000s of people, but I thought maybe I was somebody that he told me that and I was like, Damn, he's a Yeah, dude, with Mike with my leg and all that. And she's like, I'm not gonna do it. I was like, I'm gonna Well, you know what? Whatever you think you want to do on the side? And that's how you'll get some stuff. Yeah. So now I'm going home and I'm gonna hold shift.

Nick: 32:46

So the combination of all this all the training, all the fucking commitment, every decision you've ever made, and the one dude at the end that you feel okay, at least that's my little crutch.

Beto: 32:57

And nothing at all. Aside from that, like, I think I would have been like, training wise, and I've not seen train with him nothing. Until, until I was

Nick: 33:06

American. Again, nothing against this word. Anybody but nothing against the Duterte. And he's like, I ain't doing this.

Beto: 33:13

So they are so I would go for the morning. The next day, I got prepared. I mean, there was so much stuff mentally, you know? 200 all

Nick: 33:20

night long. No, your mind is fuck. Oh, yeah,

Beto: 33:23

I can't even sleep. I can, you're supposed to get good rest of sleep. And I'm like, Oh my gosh, what is what it is to just go do it. You did it. This is your chance. It did help me with the dinner the group. Everybody was like you got everybody's pep rally know that we get to the thing and I got my gear and all that and myself there and there's loud people everybody's prepping, they're doing their thing and people are working on, you know, whatever, approaching up, whatever. Everybody's prepping the way they always don't do anything. You got to put your gear and I'm looking at other people how they're doing their things. Like I put my bib and this is new to me. Like I showed you guys the videos like it's packed. It was like graduation day. Everybody's happy and all that. And it's 530 in the morning, everybody's like so people are getting,

Nick: 34:07

like 40,000 people here.

Beto: 34:09

Oh yeah, the streets were closed. Like, that's when it hit me. Even more than this thing. This event was huge. Like, when I started selling books, this is big. But from you being nervous, I was more excited also and then I'm like, You know what, I want to get this shit over with you. No, that's not what I'm gonna do. Let's just go Yeah, and then my body takes me a 445 I'm doing it. I'm on my way. I will say fuck it I'll see you here so

Nick: 34:38

But see that's the thing the reason why this is so is your mind. I'm going back to the mind.

Unknown: 34:44

You could have just said fuck it I'm not doing it right and then all of a sudden the guy text you

Nick: 34:48

ups and downs and this is again I know I always talked about your roller coaster of fucking emotions in your mind, on top of what you have to accomplish. Here It's just fucking crazy.

Beto: 35:01

That's insane. So he can't He texted me that I okay good. I was already in the area of prepping and all that and then he shows up he screwed up was there was something that his energy was like rainbows he told you you got so now for more like, Alright, you're all pumped up. I'm cool, you don't say and I was nervous but then I forget that he was there he was they look this is him to whatever. This is a group that they trained with first time. They're like this is one of the guys. Sorry.

Nick: 35:28

Oh, you actually you dropped to one. So you

Beto: 35:33

start you know said also like, everybody wants different United stick with your group, you're gonna lose them at some point. Yeah, everybody's gonna do their thing. But yeah, that day we'll we'll get to the gauge that goes by numbers and all that and you start coming out, you rent rally all the way to downtown. It's like, there's heli coming, it's huge. You get to the gates, and then you still gotta wait for other people. So then now you got to wait like an hour. And then other groups are going from at that point, I was like, to when we started, you're like, oh my god, she's gonna drain on me. And he's just going, let's just go to

Nick: 36:08

the ups and downs in your mind, you're pumped and you're boom, then you're pumped, then you're boom, and then the idea that you are there with a group of people and that's pumping you up. But the reality is, you're gonna lose those people, right? So

Nancy: 36:22

this whole time, you're like, Man, that's great. My buddies here, I'm doing this, but you're still doing it by yourself. It's more like a psychic thing. I guess

Nick: 36:31

you realize it in the middle of the race. Okay, we'll talk about that a little bit. But again, I want to bring up the point that the whole idea, again, being lost in our own mind, because this is something that probably way more people go through than should go through. They don't have the strength in their mind, like you had to go through this. And maybe not through a marathon. But whatever they're going through in their life, they're lost in their mind, and they have all these things that are going on, that they have to face, that is their marathon, right? That's their thing. And they can't seem to find the way out. This is a marathon we're talking about. But in life, this is the same way there are ups and downs and fucking ebbs and flows. And you people are in your life and then they're out of your life. And then they're out. Give us a little like a little bit more of an insight. Like emotionally, in your mind. It's it's going on because you're pumped, but emotionally What are you realizing what's going on? As it's happening? Yeah, motion.

Beto: 37:29

As it was going, I was like, I wasn't realizing like, at one point, I was like, Damn, what did I do at the starting line? And then I'm like, I was trying to take all the negative voices in my head. Because my as I said, I struggled. I didn't finish my 20 then I'm like, no. So yeah, my head was just like, I was trying to avoid the negative but don't get me wrong. The minus that's a wonderful sneak in there. What if you don't finish? What are you heard? I'm gonna shut up shut up. You know what I mean? I'm I don't think I don't think that I was nervous. But then I was kind of scared. But then my junior, I mean, your heart's pounding. But then you're like, No, I got this, I got this. And then you take in. You see so many people wanting to do the city and all that. So they you take that all in, like this, I trained with my headphones. Because it's amazing. Think about so you got to distract yourself, you really do. Because if you're just looking at the watch, or you're looking at your it's gonna take forever, because your mind is just gonna constantly it's like one of those things like, when you have to go to the bathroom, the closer you get to the bathroom, the more you have to pee. You know, that's how it is. So if you started looking like, Oh, I got this. So I don't trigger an alarm to try to avoid that. So but that day, aside from all this going through, my body's like, you don't need your headphones. I was like what I'm used to he's like, trust me. Like you don't need it. There's so much stuff that's going on. I just take it all they do and the people that were there random walk into started and they're like, just take it all in here. This is gonna be one of the greatest experiences in your life when you finish just and that brought me down like, alright, relax. Stop overthinking in your

Unknown: 38:57

zen.

Beto: 38:59

I was trying because I didn't show it. But in my head. I was like, it was so many I just heard

Nick: 39:07

you're learning as you're going to just be Well, part of your success. will find out obviously, it's just being in the moment.

Beto: 39:18

Just enjoy, like as you're going just just enjoy the

Nick: 39:21

fuck out. Because you could have thought back already to the past that you didn't do the 20 you could think to the future while there's only there's 26 more miles. So being in the moment. And this is another point that just hit so much home with me because we talk about all the time of being in the moment is that what you just said is I don't even think you realize again, that's unbelievably powerful to that somebody even told you that. But that was to be successful to run a race. And again, that goes to the idea of your mind and just being there and being in the moment and experience orienting. Yeah, what is going on with you right now? And that's people out there is just you have to understand that is what it is. Yeah.

Beto: 40:11

Like that. That was a call it a physical proof of that. And, like, I didn't realize it, too. I really didn't realize it how big it was or what I did like even when actually do you realize like what you know, I didn't know like my ghostly dude, you should be probably look at what you did you know? But yeah, especially when the strength of the person told me about that. Because you right, he could think about I have to go back when I never finish or I could be like, what if I don't finish? I even thought about okay, if I'm finished, like, what are we going to bring? You're like, What the fuck do I do?

Nick: 40:48

Because you never showed up at the fuck yeah.

Beto: 40:50

I was thinking backwards and then they'll stick and hit but then I'm like, no, just right here. Just focus on what's going on you start and you just run so when to start. And he put my headphones on at all, which I think helped because it goes back to the support in the group. You see Chicago was downtown, you know how it is. And there's it's bigger than there's people like a festival so everybody's cheering you on. Everybody's wearing things like the noise there's, you go to all the towns and there's like people putting music like they pump you up. There's one size motivates there's kids with late so you see, like the beginning me and my body start we're just like, oh my god, it's just cool. You don't like st was to train paisa he's like He slowly pays. There's a lot of things that go into it that we're wanting and we're going through we're doing our first thing and like the first mile or two which is it's technically it's almost like jogging. Every mile they put there's a big official one mile two mile. So we try not to

Nick: 41:48

pay to me that would always be worse. Because you know, my watch.

Beto: 41:52

On my watch. My wife gave up. I'm right next to him. My watch was like three miles ahead. My watch was tripping. So I'm like, You know what, I'm just gonna run with my buddy and, and I was telling him at eight How do you feel he had his brace and like he did not okay, like, I mean, look, if you wanted to let me know, and I'll slow down with you. But he told me he's like, No, if I slow down you keep going. So we're running out so we're taking it on and he like he told me what I was gonna be like people cheering like the motivation posts on people's banners like the kids you've seen like a tap here for power up like it is critical. So that keeps you going. So you're going to have enough oranges but that like snacks that they're keeping you like hoping you go which it was a good thing for me because since I trained by myself, that was like better and it's true. I wonder how it would have been if I would have tried to do so it makes sense. What they're telling you that you do need that no matter what like yeah, you could do it on your own which you can but sometimes you do need that fucking right like you got it you know so not that I didn't get it from like my kids and my girls over a Texan or tell me but it's different when you're there Yeah. So once we're going and it's like a festival you see you got to greet Tony with the regular view and there's people out there hanging out beer like it's crazy it's like a party but they try to keep you going to keep you hydrated and it's fun it is that's what the people said at the beginning. It's crazy it's gonna be a great time but you just enjoy it. So we're going through it and going through different sounds and obviously you start six miles seven you start feeling okay but then it gets to a point that you see that fucking marker and then it's hard to avoid it but you do see your watch beeps every minute or whatever we set up and then you see it heard of what what they tried to manipulate Okay, damn, I got a team I gotta at love just keep going my gym Nutrena to stop because I've been through it in the training that I stopped once and it was pitch go back so

Nick: 43:44

no matter what no matter what mile you're at, no matter what from start to fucking finish your mind is still fucking what you Oh yeah,

Beto: 43:52

it's still going it's still going aside from you taking everything in but there's parts of the run that you go into courage and all the students nobody's really there so it gets really quiet. And are you here? Are you here soothe people just running? Are you people breathing? Everybody's like military rolls type style. And then you got to note on that you hear the cheering and all that sort of thing. You need to backup you need to record now when you get to the physical part of it. You start getting tired now what I think worked out perfect that fucking Sunday was like 4550 degrees compared to the weather knows like, for me I was like because I get hot quick and I've been training like that's perfect and it was chilly. I put myself I didn't wear no like sweater or anything. I'm like I need to saw that. I was glad that it was that kind of weather. So that really was a plus for me. There's parts of the trill the rundown like say gets quiet and then the economy goes down. So now you start getting like a 1011 and then you're talking to you boy, this was a you just run next to them like oh shit. You're also losing your breaths. If you can talk how's it going? So, now you're everybody's focused. So it's not like everybody's just focused.

Nick: 45:03

You're sort of running on autopilot. Yes, you're just sort of fucking going. And then

Beto: 45:07

1011. And customers actually my buddy like, and I see him, he walked a little bit, and then he will get back up. And I would like, kind of help him catch up with me. Because we had a different running style. And he's done before but my miles kind of different time away. And then my girl bring the kids and they were actually which also helped us they were bringing us in like, three times like different mountain markers. What that tells you the map where they can be able to see them. So when I see my kids and all that my, my son, he was like, he thought I was like, super, he really seen it. He was like, What is he doing at the first one that gave me a booster 12 and that his wife was there too. And then we see the kids and then that goes another booster ball after like, I was telling Nick at the 30 mile, technically, you're by halfway. And then my buddy saw down he say I think I'm gonna walk a little bit. So I was like running backwards slowing down and you got to slow down your pace, because you gotta last, it will take off, you're gonna you're gonna burst. For sure. Like it's people that run marathons. done it many times, it's almost impossible not to unless you're Honduran

Nick: 46:09

unless you

Beto: 46:10

run into someone hours, unless you know what I mean. But it's there certain tips that they tell you, like, slow it down. So I was like slowing down. I'm like, don't you good. He's like, No, I'm gonna walk again, like, I'll catch up to you. And then he's, he literally went, it was just fucking go. I slept at 13. And once again, I've never seen him again. So at that point, like, I have my phone here, I was checking it and my girls they should ignore if he's not that far behind you. He said, Just go. But then let me know if he feels like he gets heard that. I might have to stop. But he told me dude, I don't care if you see me back out of here and go. So I left at the 13th now I'm back. You want to sit by myself again, which I'm not I'm with other people by normal my own on the race 1314 And then doesn't start hitting the more that there's a certain point that you like you kind of run or run out of stuff to think about. So you have to like find to keep yourself distracted. And I still didn't want to put my headphones on because I didn't want to listen. Then we got to those pockets again, where it was just dead quiet. You hear people shoes, and there's people that are stopping and as to where to go to get on. So you're like, Okay, shit, okay. 1314. And then there's a part, you literally forget that you even fucking running. Because you know, you're doing this so much that you just your body's almost feel like it's doing it on its own.

Unknown: 47:27

It's like life, right? You drive Yes, in the morning, you're just

Nick: 47:31

so used to going well, something becomes new in the beginning, and then it becomes old. And then it just becomes the same thing over and over again, then your body used to

Beto: 47:42

my body was just like, alright, I was trying to think of my injuries were hurting me at all. But I was just trying to literally like, it's not, you can feel your legs, but you're just up here, you're up here. And they literally tell you Don't look down. Because when you train go like this, like look up or look up, like, look straight, just take it on, because you're gonna need that you're gonna need it. My buddies, I don't know where he's at. So I'm trying to check, but I'm not trying to check my phone. And then I got girls and everybody's different going, keep going because we're watching it live, right? Because you can track by your number, where you're at, like, it's crazy how the technology will be like, every time you hit up, Mom, it triggers them to just cross. So then we're like, I'm gonna fast forward to like almost a 1920. So I'm tired. This member I never hit the point. Right? Right, right. But I was like, Damn, I'm about to hit the 20 with the rest of the people. And at that point, also, like, you got all ages. Not to sound like, in a way that's kind of me, but they're like, there's people like Hunter, Hell do the marathons. But they've been doing a soul long that their bodies are weighed in endurance compared to you. Because remember, I just started training. And so then I'm like falling on them. And then you move on the next struggle. Everybody's you can see it in the face in the beginning. Everybody's like, yeah, and then midway, everybody's like, sweating and just life like straight and like, I got to, like, I got to finish the shit. So at that point, my golden kids made me up to 20 some and it was like, one and it was like to Trenton it was like the rally of like, I remember my graph and they cut my son, and she has a video of it. And then my son started following me like you wanted to run. So I'm at the 21 So I'm like, okay, I'm okay, this still means I have another five and a half miles, but I'm like, damn, at least I hit my 20 and at one point, I was like, You know what, at least I could tell you that was like another goal that I'm like, fuck, I'm past 20 I'd never done a twin. So I'm gonna account that the last five we're going to Lake Michigan it was like a long stretch. And then it was like that's when I got my footprint there. Like the media, their streets on the Lake Michigan on both sides on Michigan Avenue. And it had 22 mile marker on this side. So I'm like, are 23 and only Okay, and it has to look rough obviously because I see the other side are going back at this point. It's a shit show. Like there's there's fucking garbage everywhere and there's people going through the bathrooms and all that and then you start seeing people there are just when the first one I seen it was this chick that she was laying down. She was sticking off her socks, I think she got blisters on her feet and she was crying. And then you kind of looking just a ship. Like,

Unknown: 50:07

you kind of want to fucking battle you're gonna want

Beto: 50:09

to tell him like because it's almost at the end. And this is when your body naturally is going to want to cramp up or dehydrate or whatever. So I seen her in that kind of feel better on the shit, you know what I mean? Like, it's kind of stuck in another level hit on a girl and you're almost done. Fuck it, drag yourself over. Even if you walk, you're gonna finish it with time, you know, we're gonna be away for almost four and a half hours. You know what I mean? You don't realize how time flies by but at the same time, it's like, it's a slow thing. Listen, you're four and a half hours, like running, you will like them. I'm capable of doing that shit. So I seen that then. When I seen that the market on this side, we're winning. And then I see 23 I know it was 24 I'm sorry. But it was for the other fucking side. So when I pass that and they see 23 O's, and oh my god, I thought it was a 24 Well, that was the other side. So then I'm like, shit, mind. And so then I'm like, you get like, I want to finish, you know, but then I'm like, no, no, no, like, just bring it up. Because anything can happen. You still need another 30 minutes or running to still get hurt. You can fall you could walk so many things. So when I hit and I seen it, it was very 23 not 24. I was like, oh my god, like am I go backwards since two. So when I ran

Nick: 51:22

around, I'm sorry, this fucking woman here and he's doing his thing. This woman here is shaking and talking back and forth. Like she's literally in the race herself. Go ahead, do

Beto: 51:33

we go back and then go back around and dance when you finally hit the 24. But this is the point where everybody's just quiet. Everybody's doing their thing. At that moment. Like, I started feeling more emotional, because I was like, fuck, I'm at the 24 Like, and in my body. I was like, I could still go. Like I'm gonna, I already told myself I'm going to finish this. I know, I'm going to finish it. But then also also relax. Because what if something happens, and then I see another person that was just like, I think she was like growing up. Because if I didn't, then I'm like, fuck. So I'm like, Okay, I'm not even looking at it. And I remember this dude, it was in front of an older guy. Because a lot of people put custom stuff like the shirt or Cooper right. For their birthday, there was a chick running there, she was pretty much pregnant that was doing and she was like running for two, like, so you see all these stories you like, share, like, there's a lot of reasons people were there doing it. And then the student was in front of me. He had a picture of him as buddy, they were like older and I'm doing this from my doing this for you, my first best friend and it was his buddy. So you start seeing this thing, or our rip monitors do that his mom just passed away two weeks prior. So I'm looking at that. And I'm 24 and then like, I did get a little bit emotional that I'm like, Dude, there's people out there that are running. I didn't say that. I didn't have a reason to run. But there's people that are doing it for like, like their mom passed away or this dude with his best friend doing it for him or for that casserole like that chick was like her kid like, so then I'm like, you realize that, so people do get it worse, right? So I was like, I'm not saying my life is perfect. But then I'm like, damn, I don't, it's not that bad. So I'm like, I'm doing this for myself. But I give it to them for doing it for you know, so I was getting a little bit like shit, that's crazy. Like, you don't know what they're going through or what they're feeling. This is just a mic and I'm gonna you're like, oh shoot the crap up of distance like no, I gotta finish for my brother or for my mom and all that. So when you see all that it's hard not to like get emotional about it at that point. So I max two miles you were just 24 and then I'm like, it was funny because I did and it tripped me up a little bit especially with the best friend like so then I'm like money and I'm 24 and the moisture starts getting louder and there was dude like hanging out bureau said fuck it give me one fucking ticket because I was the hydrosol take whatever so keep me that shit. I'm 25 And then I remember I grabbed my phone and I was like, I'm gonna go I'm gonna record this live on my phone. So I recorded the whole last stretch and at that point, like I thought it looked crap but I was like no, I'm just gonna You can literally watch your mind you can kind of listen to it say like, if you don't pay attention to this ship it will just go like yeah if you keep focusing on it you believe oh my god crappy but I thought and I was like No dude, I'm already at 25 and then I see my kids and everybody's like yelling for me so that was like driving I was like I'm almost finished last to have a mouthful to um I'm just gonna go and then you see my video I just took off and I was like, cut it everybody so I got to the finish line once I crossed that finish line it was like the best thing and where I was at first I was like conditions finding fucking done finding you walk out and then you get your medal and all that and then you're because this is the first time we're showing down completely then just want to hit you like something you're much already like oh my god, I finished proud of yourself and like I actually did a me I was like, Shit, I think I was gonna make puzzle 20 transfer the 20 got out and that's when you're fiscally is just like Everybody Joselyn like I literally went to the ground and holy shit. They've been running for identify point, five hours and seven minutes or something. I couldn't get back up. Then I was like, I don't give a fuck at that point. I was like, I'll be hurting tomorrow. I don't care. I did it. And I remember laying down a youth on site, got to build it. And I was looking up like, holy shit. Like, this is all like, you don't say like, Yes, I think like everything that went through, and then led me to this. And it was worth it to me, because I'm like, I pushed through it. I committed to it. I could have quit, that there's tons that you know that I was like, I doubted myself. But then once I crossed the finish line, I'm like, Man, I didn't know what I've seen. And it kind of helped me like, tell myself that like, if I really know or not. People like, you really push yourself to do things. Even if you're struggling in the middle of it with other things in life. Yeah, you can still get a gun. There's gonna be sure like me the day before the day of my body telling me not him. Not me, but we joke about it. I left him at there to make it so that when I get up, I didn't make it worse. He finished 25 minutes after me. Wow. And I was like, damn, bro, you didn't he's like I know. And he was hurting with with injuries. So that was like, it felt great. And then I had pictures and all that, but my girlfriend and do like that she's creepy. We're like, they do that. In the marathon bro. Like, serious. I feel like

Nancy: 56:26

it went through this whole life of roller coaster just in those 26 Miles like almost shit that just kept going on. Because nobody ever given off and never see

Beto: 56:35

another share. They like said at some point, it's quiet. And then your mind's like, Okay, what do I think about right now you have to, it's hard not to avoid it.

Nick: 56:42

There's so many fucking lessons here. There's two things that stand out. For me, especially towards the end of the story. The first thing is when your buddy, you were faced, again, to have to do this on your own. And I think that's huge, again, for a lot of people, because I think there are a lot of people out there who feel alone, and like they, they just can't do it, they want to give up, they feel that they can't do it. And that's when even the person that was there with you is telling you no fucking gonna do. I'll take care of you, you have that? Again, I say, people that are lost in their mind. It's not necessarily a marathon, it's life. And they're lost in their mind. And they have to face it alone. And unfortunately, that's the way life is we are alone, we do have people around us that are supporting us and blah, blah, blah. But we are alone, that's really important that you were able to just stay focused and do that number one. And then the other thing for me is that you're you said, you're running and you're towards the end of this race. And you see this dude about doing it for someone else. And there's all these people that are doing it for someone else. And I'm going to speak to this just for me, and actually, Nancy, that the journey that we're on right now is that we've always done it our lives for someone else. And we've never like taken care of ourselves. Even together, we've never we've been together more always together, right? We work together, we sleep together, we fucking talk together, we eat together, we don't have a lot of friends we hang out with and it's like, we've never really taken time for ourselves. So their solace in having their solace and being able to take care of yourself. For me, although it's very noble, and it's very rewarding, I'm sure for those people to do it. And your lesson was, what pushed you by yourself was the fact that these people were doing it for someone else. That was like, wow, they have it worse than me. And that's what your mind was saying at the time. And I say that, in your mind. You're saying they had worse than you. But in their mind, they could have been saying, Wow, dude, you never did the marathon. But this is where I think that life is so awesome. We don't we don't realize that. We're all going through. So yeah. Nobody's worse than others, right? I mean, we could say that and we can feel that. But people hear our story and say, Wow, you're Wow, you did that. And you're still this person. Just like, Wow, you did that. Now, what's the lesson? When I first asked you this question when I wanted to get you on here. Do you even realize I

Beto: 59:26

didn't, but I didn't especially around the time. I did. I really

Unknown: 59:29

did. Yeah, that's awesome. It's

Nick: 59:31

huge. And what you don't realize is that even more so what you did, and the fact that you agreed to even come on here and talk about it, because it's, we didn't even get into your life. No, this is one moment in your life that I think is fucking unbelievable. That changed your life forever. And it's something that you can take with you, man, your son and your girl and your daughters are all sitting there and they're just, that's you're seeing that accomplishment as well. And just that, to see that accomplishment is massive, and just people that are going to hear this.

Nancy: 1:00:07

Anytime I'll see a race now like, wow, what it takes to do that. That's like, huge. So thank you for sharing your story.

Nick: 1:00:16

So besides all of that, what is the biggest takeaway for you? That you could and I'm putting you on the spot. So you can say whatever, but not someone who's going to run a marathon? Because this isn't there might be people who are thinking about that. But I'm saying just, there's so many life lessons in this, like, what do you think is the biggest takeaway that you experienced in your mind that you can sort of tell other people like if they're just feel like, Oh, I can't do that, or I'm not going to be able to do it anymore. I can't go on anymore. What's something that you can tell them?

Beto: 1:00:50

I think I took a lot of lessons for this. But I think the biggest one was, I want to know, I guess, like the finish line, that feeling that was in my head. So throw struggles through in the middle. There's like the times that I wanted to quit and all that it was still like, I want to feel that finish line. I think that's what helped me and I'm talking about just in general, like say, I want to help people, I want to be successful in a company or whatever they want to do. Like, if you keep putting yourself like that goal. In the end. I think it would help you out more. So I learned to almost what helped me was like to control my my emotions, with the negative thoughts and try to make it positive. People say that that is tough, but I think I did. That was one things that I would struggle with. But this helped me more to like, there's gonna be bad shit is gonna fucking happen. Regardless, you know, either you're gonna let that set you back, and just be like, fuck it, I'm done. Or that can I use that as like not fuck it, I can do the five miles tomorrow, I'm gonna do the seven. Because my goal was I want to finish and I want to experience that. And I know a lot of people that do that, that I've done it myself that when something negative happens, or something bad happens in their life, or wherever it works. Some people just do it for me. And I feel like people should kind of realize, like, I know, it's tough it is but like you can do it, you know what I'm saying? Like, if you really push yourself and you tell yourself and you constantly remind yourself, that not you can do it, you can do it, you can do it, you really can't. And it's gonna be tough. And it's gonna, I'm telling you, it's gonna, especially when you're young, but you do need that support that sometimes like, you need some type people to tell you a man, you're doing a good job, or you got it, or even heroes, like all you can do it from your son, or even if you're doing shit on your own, that does help you out a lot. And I know sometimes people feel like, Oh, they're on their own and all that. But you're really not, you know what I mean? Like Nick said, but I think just taking that negative, and going through it. And even though it hurts, and it sucks that it was worth it, even though you might not see it right away. But once you get there, that's where you're going to be like, Fuck,

Nick: 1:02:57

you're definitely looking at the outcome and what you want, which in your mind, they say you have to picture exactly what you want. And that's where your mind goes. Number one. And another thing though, and we're going to finish up with this is that you took one step at a time, right? You didn't just go out there one day and say, Well, I'm gonna run 20 Miles No. Literally had take one fucking step at a time. And you started with 30 minutes or one mile or half a mile or whatever, to create this fucking unbelievable feat and to overcome this massive thing. You just did it one thing at a time and not to just died like fucking crazy. You're gonna set yourself up for failure. Yeah, and you

Beto: 1:03:41

have to, you have to accept and realize at the beginning that you aren't going to maybe fail so that you aren't going to fuck up. Because if you start thinking that I know this is gonna go smooth, then you're already losing, you know, and you have to be mentally prepared for that. Not gonna crash everybody, but as long as you don't quit. When you get that reward, it's gonna feel like the best thing in the world. Because you gotta remember everything that you've been through prior. That's awesome,

Nick: 1:04:10

dude, I appreciate it. It's been awesome. I love hearing stories like this. When I first heard it. I was like, Dude, you got to just talk about this because it's it has so many fucking

Beto: 1:04:20

and I realized he told me they do it for real man. It's crazy.

Nick: 1:04:26

All right, cool. So everybody. Yeah, listen, thanks,

Unknown: 1:04:29

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Nick: 1:04:33

This should be like, put people over the edge.

Unknown: 1:04:35

Thanks a lot, guys for listening.